Online Sex 101
Online sex is sexual activity (usually masturbation) over the internet or mobile phone that does not involve face-to-face contact and is practiced, for example, through erotic live chat. It is also known as internet sex, phone sex or virtual sex.
Online sex can be considered a form of safer sex. As the interactions take place over a computer network, there is no risk of transmitting sexually transmitted diseases to a partner or of someone becoming pregnant. However, cybersex is not entirely without risk. People should be aware of the potential loss of privacy if the content they share online is recorded and made available to others.
Examples of Sex Online
Online sexual activity can be a one-, two-, or even multi-person activity and can involve anything from sending sexy messages to controlling sex toys remotely.
Some examples include:
- Sexting
- Webcam sex
- Interactive sex toys
- VR sex
Sexting
Sexting or erotic video chatting involves sending sexually explicit messages, emoticons and pictures to your partner. Sexting can be used as a way of flirting when you are apart.
When sexting, it is important to be aware of how and where your partner uses their phone. Sexting is not something you should do with someone you don't completely trust. So think about whether you would be okay with someone other than your partner seeing your messages, and also whether you trust your partner not to share them.
Webcam Sex
The most popular form of online sex is webcam sex. Two or more people connect to webcams and engage in sexual activity through apps such as FaceTime or Skype, or special websites called sex cams.
Webcam sex can be fun, uncomfortable, or both. If you are considering webcam sex with one or more partners, it can be helpful to set some boundaries and expectations beforehand.
Figure out a way to set up your phone or webcam so that you feel comfortable communicating with your partner. You don't want to knock your tablet off the bed in the middle of an exciting moment.
Porn and Sex Online
Whether you are single or not, one way to engage in cyber sex is by viewing or reading erotic content on the internet. People think of pornography as something to be used solo, and many use it that way. However, couples can also watch or read porn together in bed or together remotely.
Interactive Sex Toys
The word teledildonics refers to the use of interactive sex toys. This category includes, for example, vibrators whose vibrations are controlled via the internet or an app. The aim of teledildonics is to provide remote stimulation and a way to simulate the experience of partner touch.
While they are not the cheapest option for cyber sex, they can be a fun thrill for people who have the means. These toys are very popular with cam girls because their viewers love them.
Alternative sex and virtual reality sex (mudsex)
The progenitor of relationships and sex in alternate reality is the online community of Second Life. Second Life is a virtual world. However, some people have very fulfilling romances and sexual relationships in this 3D virtual world. Virtual sex also allows people to experiment with different avatars, such as BDSM outfits, genders, and forms of sexuality that would not be possible in the physical world, which many consider a big plus.
Behaviour that is considered "obscene and perverted" can be criminal. This type of behaviour can include unwanted sexual advances or sharing explicit content with someone who has not expressed interest or consented to receive it.
Online sex and relationships
Cyber sex can disrupt real-life relationships and lead to dissatisfaction, break-ups or loss of personal intimacy. For some people, online sex can even develop into an addiction to pornography and affect other aspects of their daily lives.